Are you really in "Love" or its just "Infatuation"?

 

We all meet a person, and then the story starts! Trying to get to a spot to get a glimpse of the special one; talking endlessly about that one person to our best friend; stalking their social media accounts and checking their last seen; getting dumbfound every time we look at their picture; imagining thousands of conversations with them in mind but failing to utter even one word when they are in front of us…And being absolutely sure that he/she is the one we have been looking for!

But is it really true? Are you really in “LOVE” or is it just an “INFATUATION”…

 

Let us first know the difference between the two!

To put it simply “infatuation” is an intense but short- lived passion or admiration for someone or something. You just get introduced to a person and instantly feel a connection with that person without knowing them personally. You don’t know much about their nature, their past, their habits, their short-comings but still you develop feelings for them!

Whereas love takes time…It is something you do after knowing the person for at least a bit of time. It is something you do after knowing their good as well as bad aspects. It is actually accepting the person in spite of knowing every shade of them. That’s Love! You don’t need to pretend something you are not when you are together. You are just comfortable in your own skin…You know each other’s strengths as well as weaknesses, talents as well as short-comings but still choose to be together!

 

Why do people fall apart even though they were once inseparable?

You might have come across so many examples of people breaking up within a few months and couples seeking divorce within a few months of getting hitched!

A lot of the times the reason behind it is nothing but infatuation…In early stages of knowing someone the attraction is so intense that we almost ignore the short-comings or weaknesses…in fact we even refuse to acknowledge them! But after a few months when the infatuation period ceases (as it is short-lived) all those things we were ignoring pops up and create friction among couple. This is the period in which utmost patience is needed if you really want the relationship to work! These fictions sometimes deepens to an extent that no other option other than splitting is left…

 

The couples who built their relationship on the foundation of love and not infatuation successfully passes the test of time. They are comfortable with each other and are secure about the fact that they want to spend their life with each other. They accept the fact that they are not perfect individuals but make conscious effort every day to build relationship to survive for a lifetime!

So whenever you feel you are falling for someone, just make sure it is not infatuation and then only embark on the journey of commitment...